To Slut, or not to Slut -That is the Question.

Why do we cringe at the thought of being called a derogatory word? Is it because we find it inappropriate/degrading or that it actually holds some truth to it and it burns a little bit?

I'm the type of person who usually tells it like it is, sometimes evenly bluntly. I also have my moments where I just keep my mouth shut, which should probably be often - since I get in more trouble with my family and friends than the 1930s Mafia did with the law. I often get the foot in mouth syndrome, which I love to hate -- almost as much as Aunt Flow. It's one of my many downfalls. But, we've all experienced it at one time or another.

Let's say someone you know closely acted like a slut back in the day, and you happened to stumble upon someone they had sex with on someones friends list that you knew for years and didn't know they actually had any relation to each other. So, you mention that this guy banged so and so and you throw in the " she was either a slut back then or I have a good memory", comment in for good, fun humor. I said it in a jokingly manor, but that's not how it was taken at all.

Slut:

1. a dirty, slovenly woman.
2. an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.
3. a person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.




I like to crack jokes, and try to be funny some of the time, and that moment was a fail, a big fat fail.

Needless to say they are pissed at me. But, the thing I'm confused about is, why? They aren't like that anymore and have grown up quite a bit since then, so why take offense to it now. If i was the type of person who was easy and banged a lot of dudes, I would look back at that and not only be disgusted with myself, but I'd also laugh about it, because it was simply stupid.

The biggest issue, is that they are freaking out because they are now portrayed as a slut by a person they don't even know and will never meet. Why is what anyone thinks such a big deal now, and not then? You acted in such a way that was bound to get snarky remarks, and now that you don't suck dick for a place to stay it's not okay to say.

I don't get it. Really, I don't.

The other thing is, me saying they were a slut is about the worst thing I've done to them, yet the worst thing they had did to me was sleep with my ex boyfriends and try to hook up with someone I was currently dating. But, that's fine and dandy, because I just committed murder with my words - SLUT.